There is always a contradiction in the desire.
You desire contradictionary things - which doesn´t mean, that you must destroy the desire, oppress, tame or sublimate it - you must quite simply see that the desire itself is a contradiction.
It is not the things you desire, but the nature of the desire itself, which is a contradiction.
And you must understand the nature of the desire before you can understand the conflict.
With ourselves we are in a condition of contradiction, and this condition is created by the desire - this, that we strive after lust, and try to avoid pain.